the patch just keeps running

the new patch just keeps running till it get to the end then when it is fiished I try to get in game andf it starts running again?

Are you launching it using sciw or wlauncher to open realm? The patch will run continuously like that if you are using sciw.

Right Click wlaunch.exe and run as Admin or download the new client with the patch already added here:
https://realmserver.com/files/TheRealmOnline.zip